1.Not realising they have some growing up to do: One funny fact about teenagers is that they want to be treated as adults yet when they make mistakes they expect you to understand they are just growing they wouldn't want to take the responsibilities with it.
When a child gets to age 13 or there about he/she tend to forget that there is a lot of growing up to do, which includes seeking counsel, mentoring and continuous personal development. It is a challenge because sometimes when parents try to do the mentoring/counselling they get defensive just to proof that they have grown.
Solution: I always say this and I will not hesitate to repeat it here. Every parent should start early in terms of mentoring, tutoring and probably counselling. And these MUST be done with so much love. When I say with love, I have not said exclude strict discipline when necessary. Parenting is a BIG job and as parents we Must not let our guards down.
Thrive to be the BEST TEACHER your child can ever have in this life. Teach them how to grow spiritually, physically and emotionally. When you do this...be sure to raise a child that will always Hear you talk, a child that will always look up to you. BUT you must have what to give (Keep improving your self) You cant give what you don't have.
2.Sleep: Teenagers hardly sleep these days, The kids growing up today are the most sleep-deprived in history. It’s impacting on their irritability and their capacity to learn – it’s a major problem. They are supposed to be getting 9.25 hours of sleep a night from the ages of 10 to 19, but research suggests a quarter of them are getting 6.5 hours. They are building up these massive sleep debts, and it’s impacting their health and their psychology. We know that it’s Stage Five sleep, REM sleep, that really helps you consolidate what you’ve learned. The single most important study skill for a kid at school is getting a good night’s sleep.” Its a challenge because Parents knows this but each time they try to talk to their children about it they tend to see it as been too interfering.
3.How to Prioritise: Most teens find it hard to do the first things first. This is exactly why they would prefer to watch a movie, play a game, or spend hours on social media before their school work. Some wake up in the morning instead of being useful around the house they are busy with things that are less important. It is a challenge because when parents tells them of their expectation they are frustrated because they see them as "Kill Joy"
Solution: Parents needs to set clear boundaries and should make their children understand clearly what they expect from them every day.
And in terms of what is really important in life. They need to understand these saying "All things are lawful but not all things are beneficial "~Apostle Paul.
4.Identity crises: At this stage the child is trying to figure out who he/she wants to become, the child is trying to be relevant, your kid wants to fit in . At this point they make lots of mistakes and it becomes challenging for the parents because she is worried that the child might get it wrong and quit trying or loose confidence
Solution: You must be Very much available for your child. You must be understanding, don't be judgemental or say the wrong things. Offer your support until they discover who they are and what they here on earth to do (Purpose)
6. mood swing: Teens are known for this, Happy this second, sad the next minute. As parents it becomes challenging because you just have to be extra careful in order not to step on their toes. Its challenging because they have some growing up to do and you just have to manage them and their unstable emotions.
7. Body change: These has to do with self esteem or self image that is the way they see themselves or the way they perceive others are seeing them. It is a challenge for parents because, the girls might want to expose more of their skin when they start getting positive comments from folks and the ones that feels bad over what they think they don't have might loose confidence or develop low self esteem.
8. Dealing with Procrastination: This is just the opposite of priority. And it is the enemy of time. Parents are always in log ahead with their teens because they are always on excuse spree why they could not do what they were asked to do.
9. Decision Making: We need to realise that teens brain are still under construction researchers are beginning to understand that, despite their adult appearance, teenagers’ brains are not yet fully developed. The development of the prefrontal cortex plays a significant role in maturation. The brain develops in a back to front pattern, and the prefrontal cortex is the last portion of the brain to fully develop. This does not mean that children do not have functional prefrontex cortices. Rather, they do not develop the complex decision-making and planning skills adults have until later in their development. Experience can play a role in the development of the prefrontal cortex, and children exposed to a variety of stimuli and challenges may develop more quickly. Poor Decision making is a challenge for parents because when the child gets it wrong it is painful for parents too.
Solution: The simple solution is for you as a parent to act as the prefrontex cortices
10: Relationship: Some teenagers are very bad with relationships especially when it has to do with their friends. sometimes they even value their friends and respect their opinion more than they respect yours. You might tell a teen that her dress is lovely she looks at you in a funny way and tells you 'my friends says its ugly or not trendy'.
You might ask them to stay home and they disobey because they want to be with friends.
It is a challenge because some parents feels bad, neglected or dishonoured.
11.Sex: I remember when I was a teenager my mom was always scared to think I might have started having sex. she is always coming up with her long lecture of pregnancy. If i dress too trendy she looks at me in a way i cant describe but its funny. When i'm sick and probably vomits I do see how pale and tensed she looks
This happens to almost all parents(good ones) They are too protective because we are their treasure. They hate to think that someone is illegally having us. It is a challenge because it really gives them cause to worry.
Solution: As a Parent do your best and leave the rest to GOD. You cant be with your child every where but God is and will always be.
Trust God and trust your child. Sometimes when they know we trust them so much they hardly want to destroy that trust..
This might sound strange but i was inspired to write this right in my sleep. i woke up immediately jotted the topic down, just exactly the way i heard it. I believe it is going to help someone, please read and share so that it gets to others. Thank you
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