The reason we no longer have strong family ties is 'Negligence'

The reason we no longer have strong family ties is  'Negligence' If your family was like mine...those days we all look forward to family re-union Christmas/Easter celebration.

 In fact if a particular family is not yet home, everybody will be on them to come back, or the day they will be coming home every body is alert and that means...every passing vehicle/ horn is a suspect (smiles)
We have meals together, we catch up, We were a family, we trusted one another.
We were not just a family but  at the same time friends.

Wow so much fun. Funny enough those days, phones were not so common. But these days we have phones (smart one sef...lol)  but we no longer have that appetite to communicate with family.

We are too busy looking for money, those that are not looking desperately for money are suspecting others, and those that are not suspecting are jealous.

If your family is still strong, I celebrate with you and I must say that the founders did a great job and passed the batten to you and you are doing well.

What is negligence? It is simply the failure to take care of something, irresponsibility or lack of normal care/attention

One day I was out and about, i saw a lady with her 4 year-old daughter, immediately i got so attracted to them because there was something spectacular about that lady and that is 'been quick to correct' She does not waste time or leaves it for later.
Any minor careless talk from her daughter, she corrects it immediately, she always has one thing or the other to correct and she did it in a flawless and mild way that her daughter finds exciting. From a distance you might feel she is playing some kind of game with her.

The reason we have so many careless youths, I call them careless because they are careless with their actions, mouths and even their relationship with others is due to negligence.

The Parents/Guardian are negligent and they did not pay adequate attention.
There are some basic things or culture we need to teach our children
and they are
1.How to love(i.e charity,kindness)
2.Forgiveness
3.Gratitude
4.Service to God and Humanity
4.Faith(believe in God and self )
We must be very fast to rebuke them if they show signs of bitterness, hate, back-bitting, Competition,  Fault-finding, too much dependency, selfishness,  envy , gossip and unforgiveness.
Families turn enemies as a result of one or all of these.

Reasons Why Parents/Guardians are Negligent

1. They are too busy looking for money: The economy has made so many parents careless of what they should care more for, all in the name of making ends meet.
A lady gets married, gets a job, gets pregnant, puts to bed, in three months the child is in day care.
Some ladies do this and still pay close attention but most start caring less especially if they have an efficient house-help
I learnt a lot from the lady I told you above. She was so busy moulding her daughter into the kind of woman that will be an example to many. Dear busy mom and dad you need to start creating time for your family, because at the end of the day... they are the ones you will fall back on. The reason why we no longer have a strong family ties is negligence! Yes i just repeated it.

Daddies on the other hand should try and make themselves available for their wife and children. The more the kids see the love you both share, the more they feel safe.
Parenting should not be one-sided (For those that are married) because the input you make as a man of the house is different from that of the woman . But when you bring them together in a positive way, you will raise confident and well rounded kids.

2. Laziness: I know some mothers that are too lazy to correct their kids. They just sit there and mop while the child behaves erratically annoying.
They are not firm, they don't have clean, clear boundaries, any thing goes!
such parents are highly negligent and irresponsible, for me they should have stayed single.


3. Fear of Rejection: A child will never despise you if he/she is well trained. The days of punishment will definitely not be sweet, but they will look back and say 'Thank you' You don't need to spare the rod and spoil the child.
But in all we do applying wisdom should be key. Spanking is not the only way to punish a child, I am not here to advise on how to punish a child but we need to find out moderate and effective ways to shape and mould our children depending on the degree of the offense.

4. Social Media: These era of social media and telenovelas is scary because Parents and their children are addicted, please my readers who will do the training?
In a PTA meeting a man said and I quote " my wife will always say she does not have money for gas each time my children wants to do their assignment at night but she has money to buy gas for Zee world/ telemundo"
It is shocking how fleeting pleasure is now more important than investing in our children.

Societal influence: Have you taken the time to listen to our music, the lyrics are something else and those artists came from a home right?
The naked vixens are they not from homes?
Who is to be blamed? The children? the parents or the society?

If you are reading this, I encourage you as much as I always encourage myself, we need to TRAIN ourselves constantly. We have to keep improving in every area of our lives so that we will have what to invest.
Or can you give what you don't have?

Say No to Family Negligence today
lets build a safe, loving and peaceful society.
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