My Advice to Every Young Mother

Children when born are so innocent, so pure, so chaste, they are like a brand new empty whiteboard Waiting for the first letter to be written on it, if mothers can really buckle up and make sure that all that is written on that board is not negative, by  paying close attention to their duty, I think it will help the world become a better place.

Mothers have the power to mould their child/children into what they wants them to be, mothers are great influencers.

Most ladies don't truly know​ the work and the challenges that comes with it, that's why it becomes overwhelming when they get into it.

As a young lady desiring to marry, how prepared are you?
What are your values?
What do you intend to pass on to the kids you are about to have.

Are you physically prepared to take care of a toddler and
Are u prepared to feed a hungry baby at midnight, are you patient enough to do school assignments, feed a child that’s not willing to eat, stay up, move around with a baby that wouldn't stop crying,
Are you ready to let go of you for a moment so as to give your kid/kids all the necessary attention

Are you fast enough to correct your child each time they do something wrong or do you lazy around and allow it become a habit?

I'm not a perfect mom and I have my challenges too, but I have come to realize that my 4yr old daughter look up to me so much. It gets me on my toes because I want to be the best I can for her.
She wants to do everything I do, she watches every step I take.

For instance, I can't remember teaching her how to wash the dishes but she always wash hers’ after each meal.
Didn't particularly teach her how to pray but she can't but notice I pray often, she just had to learn , I thought her to be thankful (appreciative)
When she wants to misbehave just a glance from me  is enough to get her to adjust.

She thinks right and I'm very grateful to God for that .

But the point is, what if I had nothing to offer? What if I'm a super BUSY mom? Who will she learn from?
The nanny? Her peers? an aunt or uncle? With the way the devil plays with people's mind these days I can't really trust anyone with my child.

It's sad that many women become working class moms when the children are still at infancy or very young. This is as a result of growing economic crunch, or by choice.

In a competitive world, no woman wants to be a stay at home mom, they think it's demeaning/old fashion to just sit at home, they want to belong to the cooperate world. That’s not bad at all, the point is you need to put your eyes down when it comes to your kids, home and your duties as a mum.

To be a real mom is one of the most tedious job you can have but” It’s the most rewarding 'career' you could ever have,” because you're irreplaceable to your child/children, and you're making an ongoing personal investment that will outlive you."

There are so many disadvantages that comes with being a full time working mom

Tiredness:  Most moms “are so fixated on their 9 am -5 pm  jobs that they’ve lost focus of their 5 pm-9 am jobs—their families 

If she spend 8hours working , you don't expect her to come back home full of energy. She does the little she can, dozes off, so as to regain her energy for the next day.

Guilt: working mom's feel guilty because they know they spend less time with their kids.
They feel guilty because they can hear their babies cry their eyes out each morning she is about leaving. They feel guilty because the nanny is almost taking their place. I heard a story of a woman who was asked what she thinks of her nanny, with tears in her eyes she said she feels so guilty and useless at the same time, because of most of the things that she  struggles with her the nanny does it effortlessly, the home runs smoothly and now her kids are so close to her too. Imagine in four months an employee innocently excelled at her duties unknowingly causing her boss’s inner psyche to unravel.

Suspicion: A lady said her 8-year-old acts irrationally and uses abusive words, and she does not know where she is getting them from, she told me she suspects the nanny or the kids she plays with after school, to me it's strange that a woman can't place her hand on what is happening to her own child. If you don't get why she acts the way she does, how then will you know when she is being molested.

"Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding" This is a well-known saying by Albert Einstein, but the understanding between people, needs time and patience. Working mothers do not have enough time to communicate with their children and build this understanding, so barriers may easily be created. That's why it becomes difficult for them to tell you all the challenges they face in school, with friends and with life.

People cannot succeed with barriers in their family and the mothers who always work outside is one of the reason this can happen

Parents are the first teacher of a child, especially the mother. They like to imitate It is aid that "children whose mothers worked full-time were twice as likely to fail their high school leaving exams as those whose mothers stayed home to raise them" (Anonymous, 1999). This example also shows that working mothers have negative effects to their children on education. As a result, if mothers working outside for long time, then the child will have no one to imitate, therefore making the chances of learning very slim. This is the reason why children with working mothers have low early education level. As a result, early education is a very important step to influence people's IQ and EQ their whole life. Therefore, mothers should not work outside for long time during the childhood of their children.

There are so many negativity, violence, immorality, etc. in the world today.

As a mom or an intending mom, what will you deposit on your children? What is your strategy to keep them away from being infested with all the negativity around?
  Having kids is wonderful, it’s a gift, its precious, but training them well, is where all the sweetness and beauty lies.

Thumb up to all mothers that are doing a great job...Thumb up to all intending moms too.