Stop depending on others to give you value, you are enough!

Depending on people to give you value is one thing that will keep you unhappy for a very long time.

You are enough just the way you are,
Unfortunately we are in a society that makes us believe we are not, they set a standard, like what  beauty should be all about, what stature is best, the kind of people to be with etc.

Today people depend on others validation, and It’s this validation seeking mentality that really gets you unhappy.

And the search for happiness is the cause of co-dependency. You’re not happy unless you got love from others.

What is co-dependency?  It’s the belief that you’re just not good enough without the love and fulfilment from others.

In marriage there is a high rate of co-dependency whereby a spouse is emotionally dependant. This make you become needy and lose your value.

I believe that most of us have some sort of co-dependency issues. I think it’s simply in our nature to want to give love and be loved. There are times we want to be alone of course, but there’s also times we want to be loved and cherished.

At a point in my life I felt really discouraged because of lack of support from supposed friends, family members and people that knew me at one point or the other even though I was doing a whole lot on social media, it was as if they all turned a blind eye. The support I got was always from people I barely knew, I had to quickly snap out of the surprise and discouragement because it's a waste of time and I realize that I'm simply enough to be who I have being destined to be, I don't need nobody. It's not pride, it's not arrogance it's called self believe.

Unfortunately, so many factors have made our Teenagers co-dependent, they believe that the higher the likes on Facebook the higher their value, the bigger their circle the more relevant they are, the time they need ALONE to discover and to grow themselves they lose it because they are focused on a relationship that is assumed to give them value, this of course makes them to lose the most vital and emotional free moment of their life. 

Teenagers need to realise that if they don't want to make costly mistakes they need to spend time discovering who they are and what they are here on earth to do and they must do this ALONE not being attached to some people or attached with someone in an unwholesome relationship.

what actually causes identity crises to me is not taking time to figure out who you are.
Teens and youths do a whole lot of things like drug, alcoholise and engage in so many activities just to feel strong or to be noticed.

You are enough, all that you need to succeed in life is right within you waiting to be explored. You don't just know how beautiful you are
You don't know how much you know
You just don't realize the potential you have

Most times when we fail, struggle, or face obstacles, it can make us feel we are not enough. Surely we must somehow be inadequate or this wouldn't be happening. If only we could be stronger, do more, get better, then things would be okay. We would be okay.

I'm here to tell you that you don't need to be perfect to feel you are enough...You are simply enough. Believe in yourself know your value, when you do, it will be difficult for you to spend time with people that doesn't know your Worth.