"What would you do if your 15 to 17-year-old daughter came to you to tell you she is pregnant?" This is the question most mom does not want to hear or answer.
Now it is not just enough to to despise the question, we need to put our eyes down
Here are some strategies and tips for helping teens prevent pregnancy.
1. Have the Sex Talk
It sounds obvious, but many Circle of Moms members say that they can't emphasize enough the importance of sitting down with their daughters and sharing all the facts about sex and birth control -- information they need to make important choices about their bodies, their selves and their futures. "I plan on teaching my children about safe sex and birth control once they start learning about it in school, " We need to let them know that they can come to us when they think they are about to become sexually active. These days it's getting harder and harder for teens not to have sex so it is safe to fully get them armed
2. Explain Safe Sex
Explaining birth control options is an important part of educating your teen daughter about safe sex, suggests many Circle of Moms members. "A mom said, I am already teaching my children about safe sex,". "My 10-year-old knows what terrible diseases sex can cause and how most of them can be eliminated by just wearing a condom properly." That is for teenagers that cant stay off it.
One important thing every girl that has not had sex need to know is that, it is safer to give yourself time.They need to know that sex is even more emotional more than it is physical. The reason why some girls are so smart and academically sound is because they have not allowed themselves to be emotionally attached to a man. Teenagers need to understand that it is distracting.
3. Teach Her to Respect Herself
Teach her to care about herself emotionally as well as physically. As Sarah elaborates, "Don't just 'be there;' you have to talk to her, ask her questions, explain to her how boys her age act and why they seem to always want sex....stuff like that. I think if girls have good parents and learn to care about themselves, they might not have go looking for attention in a boyfriend. They should always count on you as someone that is always there for them. Assure them they can always come to you with any question about anything. They should always tell you their feelings about anything, no matter what. Teach them how to have self control...and how to say 'no' to any advances they may get from boys."
4. Encourage Abstinence
Many schools promote abstinence as the best choice, and numerous moms believe in underscoring this message with their daughters. "I will also emphasize abstinence as an option as we get into more detailed information," says Jenny C. about how she plans to educate her now seven-year-old daughter about the "facts of life." Teresa also plans to follow religious teachings on the importance of abstinence and says she will be "emphasizing how it is God's plan that they wait for marriage."
5. Lay Out the Consequences
It may sound harsh, but you have to be very frank with your daughters and explain that if they get pregnant and have a child, they should not expect you to step up and take on the parenting responsibilities. You can offer your support, but make it clear that you would not be a mother to that child. Explain the realities of living life as a teen mom. Most might think babies are just cool accessories ... When you're 17-years-old, you should be studying, becoming a better woman and having fun with friends. You should enjoy growing up not nursing a baby
A mom says she plans to be candid with her children about what her own life was like as a teen mom. She said "When my children hit the ages of 14-15-years-old, I plan on sitting them all down individually and telling them my story of being a teenage mom. I am going to reveal everything, the grief, the hardships, the loneliness, everything. I want them to know what I went through so they don't do the same thing I did."
Another mom who suggests laying it on the line. "I would tell her that I would be very disappointed," she says. "But she would be taking responsibility, and not living in my house if she chooses to have and keep the baby. You want to act grown up and get pregnant, get your own place. "
6. Encourage Them to Gain Experience Caring for a Baby
Parents should encourage their daughters to babysit as a way to prevent unwanted pregnancies. "I did a lot of babysitting and I didn't have a baby until I was married and 28 , and it was possibly a contributing factor to why I didn't have babies earlier," says Nikki S. "I had no life from about 10 to 16 because my mom and dad had three babies during that time and she was really sick so I did everything for them, including all the house work and dinner, for six years. I think the reason I had no interest in babies is ... because I wanted my own life and to have some fun first."
7. Realise You Can Only Try
There is only so much you can do to prevent an unwanted pregnancy for your daughter, many Moms has this to say. "You can't prevent everything/anything,"
"Our children will make their own decisions, some bad, some good. All you can do is educate her, talk to her and keep the lines of communication open...and trust her to make the right decisions for her."
8. Don't Make Sex a Taboo Subject
The worst thing you can do is say you won't discuss sex with your daughter, says Amber N. "I'm hoping that by talking regularly, providing information on safety, and never allowing sex to be a taboo in our lives that this won't be a situation that we have to deal with," she says. "I think making sex NOT A TABOO is probably the most important part," agrees Kayleigh L. "The more ‘wrong' they think it is, the more anxious they are going to be to try it. Information is key. "
If you are a teenager reading this, I want you to know this "If you are not ready to be emotionally attached to any man" DONT HAVE SEX YET
If you want to be on top of your game in academics" SEX SHOULD WAIT"
The moment a man sleeps with you outside marriage get ready...expect anything
MOST IMPORTANTLY IF YOU WANT YOUR PEACE OF MIND AND PRIDE INTACT...STAY AWAY FROM SEX FOR NOW!
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