I remember the day i was inside a BRT bus and as usual some people stood but i noticed how discomforted a young lady of about my age was as she stood. I offered her my seat, she could not believe a fellow lady could do that. Well... i did that because i had to put myself in her shoes.
All the men inside the bus looked at me in some kind of way. They were so impressed! They were impressed because i did what they themselves could not do.
In fact one of them gave me his business card.
I did what i did out of empathy not eye service
You don't need to break the bank to be attractive. You just need to be who you are supposed to be, which is being empathetic and loving.
It makes you super attractive!
Check out the list of little things to do, to be on your way to becoming a very confident and attractive person;
1. Handle situations fully. Kindly but clearly deal with negative issues as soon as possible. Don’t tolerate anything if it causes resentments.
2. Be done with arguments. Smile and walk away until healthy communication is possible.
3. Offer help only when asked. Don’t assume that others want you to fix them or that you know best for them. Be available and give help only when asked.
4.Care deeply, but remain detached. Let others know you care deeply about them when they have problems, but don’t get caught up in their problems.
5. See with your heart, not your eyes. Look beyond superficiality when seeing someone. Financial status, appearance, notoriety, all mean nothing. Look for the authentic person inside.
6.Don’t say yes when you mean no. If you mean no, your yes will be harnessed with resentment. Say yes only when your yes is given freely.
7. Let others know you are grateful. Tell them and show them that you feel blessed to have them in your life.
8. Never play the guilt card. Don’t try to manipulate or hurt someone by trying to make them feel bad about their choices, decisions, or actions.
9.Give more than is expected. Don’t over-commit, but freely give more than you promise.
10. Be inter-developmental in your relationships. Don’t be controlling, dependent or co-dependent. Create relationships that are mutually uplifting, reward, and satisfying.
11. Be a big person. Don’t try to take credit, diminish others, or hold back on praise. Offer acknowledgment and power when it is needed and deserved.
12.Be confident enough to be humble. Be able to laugh at yourself, acknowledge your flaws and failures, and accept that they don’t define you.
13. Be open to learning. Don’t flaunt your intelligence or superior knowledge. Recognise that there is always something to learn, even from those who appear “less than.”
14. Be more engaged than engaging. Show your sincere interest in others. Use the word “you” more than “I.” Listen intently and reflect back to others who they are.
15. Give gifts that others want. Not just gifts to impress or that are important to you.
16. Challenge yourself constantly. Don’t settle for mediocre. Don’t languish in past accomplishments. Keep moving forward and exude enthusiasm about possibilities and the actions to make them happen.
17. Detach from adrenaline. Simplify your life enough so you are not rushed, stressed, cluttered, or distracted. Allow yourself time and room to focus.
18. Embrace the incredible power of now. Nothing is more valuable than this moment. Make it the best moment you possibly can right now.
19.Don’t fight the flow. Don’t struggle against people or situations you can’t control. Move effortlessly in a different direction.
20. Keep evolving. Stay on a path of self-improvement and stay alert for opportunities for shifts and growth.
Finally accept that you won’t be attractive to everyone. As you evolve and become more attractive, fewer people will be attracted to you — but what an incredible group they are!
If you missed the part 1 please click here
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