Identifying true Love (redefining love)




When someone says ' I love you'  It is supposed to be a very positive comment or statement because in English love is just love.  But in reality people can make this comment for different reasons, because they mean what they said, or to get something from you, to appear nice, without having your interest at heart at all.

Understanding or making effort to understand the import of this comment will spare you a lot!
It  will  help you know what to really expect. 
For now let's concentrate on true love and romantic love.

I think Eros (Romantic love ) is the kind of love that really gets two individuals married.
For procreation and for enjoyment but when marriage is standing on this love alone. It's going to crash into pieces. It's not suppose to exist alone in marriage.
I love the way my friend compares Eros and Agape, He said Eros is the icing in  a cake while agape love is the cake  itself, we know very well that  the ice is not the part that makes a cake,cake.
The Icing is for decoration, but without the cake the icing is useless!
So my question now is; why is erotic love exalted and the most talked about if it's just an icing in the cake and not the cake itself.
Sexual/romantic is the highest talked about, by youths and teens... Most of the channels in my paid subscription talks about eros love; the movie producers, musicians has made so much money talking and promoting this particular love.
It's always about 'searching and finding that special one' its often about the butt, body shape etc
A lot of people feel secured, complete and happy when they are in love (eros)
But sad and incomplete when they are alone.
But as sweet and nice the world makes it look, erotic love fails!  No wonder relationships and  marriages, crashes almost as soon as it begin, because the love is based on feeling, the day the "feeling"  is not there, the marriage packs up. The day the body shapes and the butt becomes not too good, infidelity sets in and of course the marriage crashes! The day the wife or the husband is not meeting the expectation...the marriage crashes , the day pressure of life comes the marriage crashes! 

 The world is full of divorce, resentment, bitterness and greed. That is to say that this kind of love fails!
Agape is the love, mostly neglected but the most authentic love that never fails. It's all about commitment, it loves even when it feels like not loving, it's not about who you are or what you deserve, it just loves!
As an individual, this love is not just centerd on what you will do for your lover (sexual Love)
It's about what you will do for humanity.
Everyone wants to be happy and fulfilled, isn't it funny how many neglect the vital thing that brings true happiness, because in loving others fulfilment comes alive in you. Love drives out fear.
Today go out of your way to visit the sick,help the poor, encourage the depressed, show kindness to people around you and remember it's not about who deserves to be loved! True love is unconditional!
The reason our hearts are becoming so hard-cold is because the Media and our society promotes Eros, shoving agape off. Allow your true nature come alive which is to love and to be loved.

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