QUESTION: I was invited for a friend's birthday party which took place at her family home.
I never knew how big it was going to be until I got there. The whole place was full and well organized. It was such a big family.
I got there a day before the party, her family and other friends were so pleased to have me, according to them, they've heard so many nice stuffs about me. I just mumbled thank you with a smile as they each say what they heard. But my discomfort started the night of my arrival, I was with my friend's mum alone in the kitchen, trying to help her fix dinner the next thing I heard her say was "my daughter speaks so fondly of you and that you are one friend she emulates" If you don't mind...Will like to know "what your values are?
Her question threw me off guard. It was then that I realised I have not thought about that before. And I said errmmmm ma... I value my friend and my family... She looked at me in a way that suggested she wasn't too satisfied. Please Royal help me explain how do I figure out my values.
RQ FEEDBACK:
Values are those elements that are important to you
You might not have given your best answer because
Like you said you've never given it a thought until that day you were asked.
Your own values can emerge from a combination of your background, your experiences, and your evolving sense of self. While some of these values may stay constant throughout your life, others will develop and change as you do.Values are the things against which you measure your choices, whether consciously or not.
To figure out what your values are, you need to pay attention to your day to day activities.
1.What turns you on.
e. g Accomplished goals, Vision, Money, being-liked,
2.What you spend most of your time on
e. g Family and friends time together. Building dreams /planning etc.
3. What brings you fulfillment
e.g The kind of job you do. Integrity of purpose, church, well-being (physical/ emotional/ mental/ spiritual) etc.
4. Those things that brings out your spark
e.g Being the best, dressing modestly, achievement, coaching/mentoring etc.
On a second note what you detest can also give you an idea about your values. For instance
If you hate lies then you value integrity , truthfulness
If you hate late-coming then you value punctuality
If you hate idleness then you value efficacy, responsibility etc.
If you don't like disrespecting others or having others disrespect you then you value respect.
If you don't like to walk around half naked then you value modesty.
Values are what bring distinction to your life. Although our values differs but we all have one. Some have more, some have less, the most important for me is improving and adopting more great values.
The day you go against your values. You will feel bad, it's normal but that is the more reason we learn and improve everyday.
Find your value and when you do, you're on the path to fulfillment.
stions in comment box or send to this email royalqueen607@gmail.com. I will attend to them as fast as I can. Thanks
some list of values below:
Acceptance
Trust
Responsibility
Reliability
Empathy
Courage
Beauty
Calmness
Charm
Integrity
Discretion
Efficiency
Family
Church
Money
Humor
Love
Independence
Intelligence
Grace
Kindness
accountability
achievement
adaptability
ambition
balance (home/work)
being liked
being the best
caring
caution
clarity
coaching/ mentoring
commitment
community involvement
compassion
competence
conflict resolution
continuous learning
control
courage
creativity
dialogue
ease with uncertainty
efficiency
enthusiasm/ positive attitude
entrepreneurial
environmental awareness
ethics
excellence
fairness
family
financial stability
forgiveness
friendship
future generations
generosity
health
humility
humor/ fun
independence
initiative
integrity
job security
leadership
listening
making a difference
openness
patience
perseverance
personal fulfillment
personal growth
personal image
power
professional growth
recognition
reliability
respect
reward
risk-taking
safety
self-discipline
teamwork
trust
vision
wealth
well-being (physical/ emotional/ mental/ spiritual)
wisdom
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