How To Improve Your Decision Making And Choices


Question: Hello Royal-Queen. I'm mercy, i have a problem i would want to share...when I am asked to make a decision i take so long.
  I'm not sure what i like or what to choose.
I always go with people's decision because i dont want to hurt them. But deep down I am not happy.


RQ Feedback: 

Dear Mercy,  I perfectly understand you, i have been there, I know that feeling of 'am i not smart?' The feeling of 'I'm I a push over?' It makes me want to cry...that was before i understood i have power over what i should allow and what not to allow.
You must understand your values perfectly before becoming an expert in making great choices and decisions, although mistakes are inevitable, but you dont have to pause your life because you dont want to make mistakes. Its better doing something than doing nothing.

 But if you always focus on fear of making wrong decisions, guilt, remiss. Then you have to adopt the strategy of buying time to think things over, spend time making research or better still get mentored.

If you are bent on getting well trained and liberating yourself completely. Then it goes like this 'Values 👉 Choice 👉 Decision'
Trust me if you dont set boundaries, many people would want to exploit and make you loose focus. (I have not said you should not be teachable, all i'm saying is that you should know exactly what works for you, what resonates with you and set boundaries when dealing with people so that they dont drain you or take you off your track)

 'Values 👉 Choices 👉 Decision' are  strictly 'yours'. Though some people in our lives will try to dominate and make us feel its not ours to make. Read about Toxic and manipulative people here
Decision is easy when you know your values you can also read that here.
For instance if going to the club is not your thing, when you are asked if you would want to club, the decision will be easy to make. Make the decision to suit you not the other way around. Say No and stick by it.
If you like to dress modestly, its easy to make the decision on the kind of outfit to wear.
Wear what makes you comfortable because it will boost your confidence.

Everything is a choice, this is life greatest truth and hardest lesson.
It's a great truth because it reminds us of our power, not power over others but often the untapped power to be ourselves and to live the life we have imagined.

It's a hard lesson because it causes us to realise that we have chosen the life we are living right now .

Its frightening because we may not like what we find when we look at our life today, but also liberating because we can now begin to choose what we would like to find, when we look at our life tomorrow.

What will you see when you look at your life 10yrs from now? Now that you just visualised it
What will you choose
Life is full of choices sometimes we choose the best version of ourselves and sometimes we choose the second best.
Our choices don't impact the moment we make the decision they echo throughout our life into history and into the eternity.

And if you are a victim of circumstance you still have to choose how to respond to it.

Whether you like it or not everything up to this point, in your life that has happened or has not happened to you is because of the choices you have made.

Everything can be traced back to a series of choices we have made

Does any of this sound familiar
1.what did you decide to wear today?
2.what time did you decide to go to bed?
3. What/how many things did you accomplish today?
You see; everything is a choice

Everything from what to wear
What we think
How to act
Where to go
Who to believe
Who to love
What to focus on
The kind of mental attitude to have etc

Everything is as a result of your ability to choose
As human beings we have been given this tremendous power that allows us to change any result that we do not agree with.

Enjoy these quotes;
“We are the creative force of our life, and through our own decisions rather than our conditions, if we carefully learn to do certain things, we can accomplish those goals.” —Stephen Covey


               
“Life is about choices. Some we regret, some we’re proud of. Some will haunt us forever. The message is this: we are what we chose to be.” —Graham Brown

 â€śDecisions are the frequent fabric of our daily design.” Yaeger

Dear Readers you too can drop your questions in the comment box or to royalqueen607@gmail.com will attend to it as soon as i can.  Thanks

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